How to Handle a Tough Sales Manager (Without Losing Your Mind or Your Job)

“If your boss seems hard on you, it is either because they see potential in you
Or because they feel this is the only way to deal with reportees .”
– Vikas Taware, after surviving hundreds of sales reviews

Let’s be real.

You will meet that one sales manager at some point in your career.

The one who makes you question all your life choices twice before breakfast.
The one who can sniff a missed follow-up like a bomb-sniffing dog.

I met mine at Sharekhan Education.
His name was Farrukh Khan, and no, he wasn’t the Bollywood superstar.
He was a superstar of stress, discipline, and sales pressure.

Meet Farrukh Khan: My Personal Masterclass in Tough Bossing

Farrukh Khan had two speeds:

• Fast
• Faster

And two moods:

• Chasing targets
• Chasing people who missed targets

His hobbies included:

• Sending WhatsApp follow-ups with “Update??” on week off (yes, double question mark compulsory)
• Rolling his eyes with such drama, it deserved its own Netflix series
• Starting every team meeting with: “Targets are non-negotiable” and sometimes even before “Good morning”
• Comparing you to someone who “achieved 100% without any leads”

And if you thought weekends meant winding down, think again.

The Weekend Workshop Saga

Under Farrukh’s regime, we had weekend workshops for prospects.

After every Sunday workshop, we were mandated to post in the team WhatsApp group:

• Number of prospects who attended
• Number of conversions
• Client feedback
• Next action plans

If you reported low attendance or poor conversions, the way Farrukh would pull you up, it felt like you had committed a serious crime.

You didn’t just feel guilty, you felt publicly executed.

And Monday?

Officially, it was our weekly off.

Unofficially, it was “prepare your data for the Tuesday review meeting” day.

Because if you walked into Tuesday’s sales meeting without perfect workshop data, pipeline status, and follow-up updates, Farrukh would eat you raw and not with chutney, mind you.

The result?

Most of us spent Monday (our only day off!) glued to Excel sheets, analysing and preparing to survive the Tuesday dangal.

Sales Statistics That Prove It Wasn’t Just Me

And in case you are thinking, “Poor Vikas, must have been just bad luck,” here is some cold reality:

• 62% of salespeople quit because of their manager, not the company (LinkedIn India Sales Report)
• 48% say their manager’s unrealistic expectations are their biggest stress trigger
• Only 21% feel their manager truly understands the ground reality

So no, it was not just me.

Tough managers are practically omnipresent in Indian sales.

Why Tough Sales Managers Like Farrukh Khan Exist

Ever wondered why some sales managers seem relentless, pushing you harder than you ever thought possible?

Here are some key reasons why tough sales managers like Farrukh Khan exist:

1. Pressure Flow

The higher-ups squeeze the managers, and it trickles down like Mumbai monsoon leaks.

2. Communication Gap

Managers think: “I said it once, why repeat?”
Executives wish: “Maybe ask me why it’s stuck?”

3. Different Timelines

Managers plan in quarters.
Executives survive hour-by-hour, prospect-by-prospect.

4. Emotional Disconnect

Managers chase targets.
Executives chase real clients who ghost, vanish, and sometimes promise to “call after Diwali”… even in March.

Research by McKinsey found that an employee’s relationship with their direct manager is one of the strongest predictors of their performance and engagement.

6 Things I Learned to Handle a Tough Sales Manager (and Keep My Sanity)

Handling a tough sales manager isn’t easy, but over time, I discovered key strategies that helped me not only survive but thrive in the pressure cooker.

Here are six lessons I learned that kept me sane and productive.

1. Understand Their Pressure Cooker World

Instead of judging Farrukh, I started observing.

One day, I simply asked:

“Sir, what’s your biggest priority this month?”

Result?

For the first time, he paused before answering.

From then on, our relationship shifted from enemy to ally.

2. Communicate Before Being Asked

Instead of waiting for a grilling, I started sending small updates:

“Met 3 prospects. 1 very hot lead. Workshop lined up next Sunday.”

Result?

Fewer dreaded “Update??” pings on weekoffs.

3. Show Effort, Not Just Results

When a prospect didn’t convert, I detailed my efforts,
meetings, calls, and follow-ups.

Result?

Even if I failed, Farrukh respected that I hustled.

4. Speak in Data, Not Drama

Instead of saying, “Sir, market thoda tight hai,”

I showed him lead counts, appointment statuses, and conversion timelines.

Result?

Tough managers love facts so did Farrukh. So, speak their language.

5. Ask for Coaching, Not Just Targets

One fine day, I asked:

“Sir, what do you say to a client who keeps saying ‘thinking’?”

Result?

And that day, Farrukh Khan the Terminator became Farrukh Khan the Teacher.

(For 5 minutes, but still.)

6. Manage Upwards Like a Pro

I figured out his pet peeves like late reports, incomplete reports etc and made sure I never, ever triggered them again.

Result?

A 70% easier work life.

By understanding their world, communicating proactively, and adapting to their expectations, learn how to turn a challenging relationship into a productive one — and it will make a difference in establishing your career.

The Sales Sanskar: Know When It is Time to Exit

If you’re being mentally or physically broken, if your Sundays look like Mondays and your sleep is haunted by Excel sheets, then it is time to move on.

Some bosses are teachers.

Some are just milestones.

Both leave you stronger.

Final Thoughts: Why Farrukh Khan is Actually a Hero in My Story

When I look back today, I realise:

Farrukh Khan wasn’t trying to destroy us.

He was trying to forge us.

His pressure made me:

• More disciplined
• More data-driven
• More proactive
• More accountable

Because of him,

• I don’t fear high-pressure meetings anymore
• I don’t break down when tough conversations happen
• I don’t run from targets, rather, I chase them.

Farrukh’s world was tough, but it made me tougher.

And for that, I’ll always be grateful.

He didn’t just teach me how to sell.

He taught me how to survive. How to win.

Ever survived a Farrukh Khan of your own?

Drop your war stories in the comments below.

Let’s help each other sell smarter and survive stronger!

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As per Vikas

Hi, I’m Vikas Taware. After years of hands-on experience in sales and marketing, I felt a strong pull to share the strategies I’ve mastered, the setbacks I’ve overcome, and the wins that shaped my journey. That led to AsPerVikas—a blog where I cut through the noise and share real, field-tested insights to help you sell smarter, market better, and grow faster.